Dating over the age of 50
Dating over the age of 50 - Online sex
Ideally, you are relaxed enough to view dating less as a referendum on who you are and more as a form of entertainment that could possibly lead to a lasting relationship.So why do so many people over 50—especially women—seem to dislike dating so much? Considering the list, it is easy to see why not everyone in my demographic approaches dating with boundless glee and optimism.
Like everyone on the planet over the age of 50, with the possible exception of the Unabomber, I’ve had more than a few romantic relationships.I was married for 11 years, engaged for one, partnered with a lovely woman for five, and had a few shorter dalliances along the way.What I suppose makes me a bit different is that during my 13 years of singlehood, I’ve dated a lot—more than 1,000 dates with more than 300 women.I realize those numbers are off-putting to some, especially women, but if you do the math 1,000 dates in 13 years means an average of seven dates with two or three women a month. But I do think I have more information about dating over 50 than most experts.And I'm not alone, I have listened to hundreds of my "mature" (over 50) peers about their dating experiences. I look at it this way: who is the expert about baseball, someone who played for the Dodgers for 13 years, or George Will, a bow-tied columnist who writes about baseball?Just to be clear, it would be lovely to find someone I could be in a long-term relationship with (Note: I intensely dislike the phrase “grow old with,” to me it connotes two elderly people drooling in wheelchairs together.) But until I do, this delicate, passionate, wonderful, and terrifying process of dating over 50 fascinates me.
There is a consensus that dating over the age of 50 isn’t always pretty.
In my opinion it can (and should) be enjoyable most of the time, and interesting almost all of the time.
After all, you’re meeting new people, hearing new stories, thinking about the possibility of new relationships, maybe even allowing yourself to drift off and think about sex.
And you’re doing all this equipped with years of knowledge.
The great advantage is that you know yourself better than you did at 30.
You know what you want, or at least don’t want, and you have less patience for BS so you know if somebody is a good match or not a lot sooner.